A guy asked me out to coffee recently. “Cool,” you may think I said in response. After all, I haven’t had a date in 2.5 years. (But who’s counting)

This is the thing…I would’ve loved to have met him for coffee because he was one of the first guys who interested me on this online dating site. I really wanted to go out with him but I waited because I had not heard from him in several weeks. Ehemmm 🗣Where ya been, sir!?

Anyway, he asked me out to coffee after weeks before saying he wanted to take me to a Japanese steakhouse in my area. Oh no, make no mistake. He did not forget that he invited me to the steakhouse weeks before because he even mentioned it over the phone. 🤔 So, days went by with no contact. The ball was in my court so to speak but I never called him with my availability.

Sistas, please hear me out. We are more valuable than a cup of coffee ☕️ vs. a steak 🥩 dinner. Come on now! Somehow I got downgraded to a Starbucks. LOL

We have got to know our worth.

Know your worth, then make your decisions. Don’t make decisions without recognizing and cherishing your worth. You are valuable. You are of great worth. You are loved by an Almighty God who can do exceedingly and abundantly above anything you can ask, think or even imagine (Ephesians 3:20).

If you don’t know your worth, ask your loved ones. Talk to those friends you’ve known for a long time. They know you. Write down those affirmations people have given you over the years. Note what characteristics you love about yourself. And most importantly, read what God says about you in His Word.

• You are a royal priesthood. I Peter 2:9
• You are the apple of God’s eye. Zechariah 2:8
• No one can take you from Him. John 10:28-30
• You can never be separated from God’s love. Romans 8:35-39
• You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14
• You are loved and worth dying for. John 3:16
• You are not alone. Hebrews 13:5

There are many more things God has said about you. Everything God made is good – that means you were designed perfectly by a perfect God. He broke the mold when He made you, girl.

You are a woman of great worth. And don’t you forget it!

Vernicia T. Eure Founder of S.T.E.P. Consulting Group
Creator of Stepping Into Purity and Beyond

My mother was a New York fashion model in the late 1940’s. My daughter is a New York fashion photographer, and I’ve spent my whole life in the beauty business.

I know how to polish “diamonds in the rough,” and I know how to make “plain” people look attractive.

I’ve seen models turn anorexic and almost die. I’ve seen girls who never had a date in high school become covergirls. I’ve seen people with incredible potential go nowhere from a lack of confidence. I’ve seen popular girls enjoy the spotlight… too much.

I also know what it’s like to feel ugly. I was the fat daughter of a beautiful mother. I weighed 290 pounds when I was 16– and eventually peaked at 360 pounds on my 36th birthday.

I know what it’s like to be transformed, by losing 220 pounds and keeping them off for 25 years… through the grace of a God Who helped me, even before I knew His Son.

Here’s the thing about beauty: Everybody’s got it. It’s not fickle, because God’s not fickle. It’s not a certain size, look, weight, hairstyle or outfit. It’s confidence found in Christ. It’s sparkle in your eyes. It’s kindness in your smile. It’s pep in your step.

Yes, polish helps the shine, because beauty can be covered… but the glow is still there, waiting to brighten every place you go.

What I’d like to say to girls reading this post: In God’s Eyes, you’re already a masterpiece. When you begin to see yourself the way God sees you, your own transformation will happen. Your outside will begin to reflect your inside- which reflects Christ. You’ll feel more confident. You’ll radiate.

This isn’t Christian mumbo jumbo. It’s biblical truth, and I offer you some worldly proof. Think about it: You’ve seen girls and ladies others might not call “attractive”, but they’re hanging with the coolest guys. How? They’re confident, and their boyfriends or husbands see them the same way God does.

When you transform your thinking, God will transform both you and your circumstances.

Carey Lewis


careylewis.us

Carey Lewis is the founder of a world recognized talent development ministry, called Actors, Models & Talent for Christ (AMTC). From 1982-2018, AMTC scouted, coached and launched thousands of performers into film, fashion, music and theatre. Carey has won two Lifetime Achievement Awards for her contributions to the cause of Christ in arts and entertainment. She speaks, counsels and writes daily devotions geared to the media generation, and those called to influence it with light, love and truth. Check her out at careylewis.us or https://www.facebook.com/CareyLewisOfficial/